Forget the self-help books and the obsessive ways that you continually try to “fix” yourself. Stop being so consumed with thinking you are flawed and that you constantly have to make things right.
Happiness is not something you need to get a hold of. It’s already there for the taking. Listen to the whisper of your internal subtle wisdom: Happiness is Not Something to Be Found, it’s Something to Be.
Let’s explore these six quick ways to let happiness begin to manifest in your life:
#1 If you want to be happy, think of others before yourself.
I’m just going to come out and say it: get over yourself! Stop obsessing about your agenda. Make the decision to light up someone’s day. It can be as easy as giving a co-worker who has been so helpful a thoughtful note thanking them for everything they do. They will be incredibly happy, and I guarantee you will be too.
By climbing down the mountain of self it is possible to ascend the mountain of other, and thereby cherish others as much as ourself.
#2 Just look inside to find the answer.
If you’re dealing with a challenge, the first thing we normally do is look at the situation to find the solution, but is that always the real place to search? Maybe the answer is a bit more subtle than we realize. If you check, you’ll see from your own past experience that external sources that create happiness are temporary. You have the choice to turn within for the answers. This is your rock– your REFUGE, this is where you can draw true power and it’s this internal wisdom from within that will serve you in those moments of confusion and despair.
#3 Meditate every day.
In The Happiness Advantage, author Shawn Achor notes that after mediating for just 21 days, the brain actually changes and you become “disengaged” from your problems. The reason– because you are not basing your happiness on the external world. Achor says it is very hard to separate ourselves from thinking happiness is derived from the external world. It’s hard to do, but with EFFORT, it is possible.
#4 Come up with your own slogans.
Create daily anchors that remind you to keep happiness top-of-mind. Make little sticky notes that you can place on your bathroom mirror, at the office, in the car, and while you’re at it, why not on your boss’ head. Just figure out a system that works for you and stick with it. (No pun intended) I highly recommend visiting DanielleLaPorte.com where consciousness meets cash and sign up for her daily Truth Bomb!
#5 Always be thankful.
Make a list of all the things you’re grateful for. This simple act of gratitude will remind you of all the abundance that you have in your life. If you’re reading this, chances are you don’t have to worry how you’ll feed your kids tomorrow, or if you’ll have a nice warm bed to sleep in tonight. Everything that we have in our life comes from the kindness of others–the food, money, shelter, and…that fantastic coffee you love each morning. Take the time to rejoice in all your good fortune and wish the same for others.
#6 Move it or lose it
Make exercise your mantra. Can’t find the time to exercise for a 1/2 hour? Just 10-20 minutes will have an instant effect on your mind and overall attitude. If something is holding you back– it’s you! It’s not your schedule, or your family outing. Connecting to the physical part of you makes and impact on your happiness and science proves this to be true. The quick path to happiness tomorrow = sweating it out today!
To continue on your own happiness quest, check out these books in my reading room:
The Happiness Project, by Gretchen Rubin
What the Most Successful People do Before Breakfast, by Laura Vanderkam
The Happiness Advantage, by Shawn Achor