The Weekend Paradox

I’ve come to conclusion that when my day doesn’t go right, it’s because I made one crucial mistake early on: I did not have a plan. The weekends are supposed to be about kicking back and relaxing, right?  However, I’ve found that I still need a certain level of structure.  If I don’t have some sort of plan on the weekend, I’m a mess to be quite honest.  I usually drop the ball on my Monday through Friday morning schedule, and convince myself that sleeping in is a good idea because I need it after a busy week. Unfortunately, this usually backfires and my day often feels a bit off-kilter.

When your downtime is limited, you need to be careful how you use it.

In What the Most Successful People do Before Breakfast, Laura Vanderkam suggests that even the weekends need structure if you want to get things done. The trick is to accept that there are only so many hours in a weekend. How will you use them?

You have to take time off to recharge. This is essential, but your time is precious on the weekends, and sometimes being too “leisurely about leisure,” can cause inaction and restlessness. You have to “set an appointment to go off the grid as surely as you go on it,” says Vanderkam. I think that in an effort to figure this out, sometimes we risk trying to do it all, and as a result frustration and dissatisfaction sets in.


I’ve come to the conclusion that keeping the Monday through Friday morning schedule going all seven days of the week is essential for me on many levels because. I crave this alone time when my family is still snoozing, because once they are up, I want to focus on family time.  The first few hours of the day are also when I have the most creative breakthroughs. Why would I want to sleep in and miss this?

Weekends are not as infinite as they seem, and the let down comes from thinking we have all the time in the world. When time slips through our fingers without a real plan, we can become deflated and before we know it, we’re thrust into Monday morning and a mass of emails and cranky co-workers that wish Friday would come fast.

No wonder we get the Monday blues. Now, get out there!